Conflict is the
inevitable and potentially productive result of two people relating intimately with each other. However, when was the last
time a fight was actually productive?
Most people in a fight, just want to convince the other of their point
of view. In the end, fights lead to words and actions that hurt the relationship.
We often believe that "constructive
criticism" is how to assert our wishes. But these moments tend to be unnecessarily hurtful and are simply opinions disguised
as facts -- or "should" statements.
Of course, it is important to ask for what you want in a relationship and
to say no at times. Discussing these things with your partner helps maintain and sometimes strengthen the relationship.
The ability to communicate your wants and needs may be extremely difficult, especially if there were no effective
role models growing up. To communicate love and understanding, you must feel positive about yourself and cultivate empathy
for another's point of view. It also requires the commitment to taking care of yourself within the relationship and letting
go of thinking your partner "should" be doing that for you.
RELATIONSHIPS THRIVE WHEN YOU HAVE...
Enjoy Each Other and Have Fun Together!
Listen to Each Other, Give Each Other Space, Allow Differences, Practice Non-Judgmental Attitude
Maintain Touch and Eye Contact, Have "Couple Time", Foster DESIRE and DESIRABILITY!!
MOST IMPORTANTLY YOU -
Keep yourself emotionally well and in balance.